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Memorial Weekend at Calumet Park Cemetery quiet due to COVID-19…



Marilyn and Misti passing out flags in the uniform of the day for 2020 Memorial Day.



For the first time in 92 years, Calumet Park Cemetery had to cancel all Memorial Weekend activities.  Normally, around 5,000 – 6,000 cars enter the cemetery over the course of the weekend, considered by many as the weekend that is the unofficial start of summer.  Some come to plant flowers, some to honor and remember their loved ones, and many for the different events, from church remembrances to a free fireworks show to the main gathering in the Veterans Section to honor fallen soldiers.

Granite flag at the SE corner of the Veterans Section, Section 17.

If you need help finding a loved one’s final resting place, stop in at the office (mask please, for everyone’s health) or call 219.769.8803.  If you have a smart phone, simply go to our website at and follow the prompts using Gravefinder.  You will need your section and lot number to use the Gravefinder app.    For Calumet Park to look up the locations, they would need the deed holder’s name or the name of the deceased.  The Gravefinder app does not allow the entry of a name as part of the search.  Once you enter this minimal information, Google Maps will direct you to within 5-6 feet of your desired location.



So sorry that we could not see you at this year’s Memorial Weekend.  Hopefully, we will make up for it at next year’s Memorial Weekend.

Happy Memorial Day



Due to “government social distancing guidelines”,  no Memorial Day Services will be held.


A Memorial Day Story

I am sitting here, staring at a blank page.  I am supposed to write a story related to Memorial Day.  But what to write, that is the question?  As a Vietnam vet, my view of the world on this day, meant to honor all who wore the uniform, is different than many who will read these words.  Kahlil Gibran, a Lebanese writer from the 1920’s (wrote The Prophet) was quoted as having said “You’ve never lived until you’ve almost died. For those who have fought for it, life has a flavor the protected shall never know.”  These words should be shouted at every Memorial Service in the land every year.

Every American who had, or has, the courage and dedication to put their life on hold, to put on the uniform, to learn how to shoot a rifle and either go to war or be willing to go to war, needs to be acknowledged and thanked on their special day that is celebrated as Memorial Day.  In years past, Calumet Park would celebrate these special people with fireworks, cannon salutes, speeches and honor guards, and high school bands playing patriotic songs.

But this year, lost along with weddings, and graduations and funerals, such demonstrations of appreciation across the land as group settings will not happen.   This year, the world is filled with isolation as the Covid-19 pandemic decimates young and old, rich and poor, white, black, brown and everything in-between, and will cause the death of thousands of people and thousands of businesses and jobs.  Cemeteries are subject to the same social distancing as is required outside of their gates.

For sure, Calumet Park Cemetery will be open to the public for Memorial Day.  Just as ‘for sure’, Calumet Park will not be able to honor our military and their families in the way that we would like.  We will show our appreciation for those who keep us free, but in a different way.  A special tribute to veterans is being produced that will come from the heart as a permanent tribute to those who served.

In a sense, the video tribute will be special in its own way as it will live on forever on the internet, once posted to our website (  If all goes well, it will be up on the site by Memorial Weekend so please check in as the weekend for soldiers and families approaches.

Back to the blank page that is now nearly filled, please remember any vets in your family, or vets that you know, on this special day.  Isolation is a way of life for so many people that were part of any war.  They may walk around as though nothing is wrong, but many have self-isolated years ago.  My brain is so compartmentalized and blocked by mental ‘pandemics’.  I have managed to function in this world and even be successful at times.  We all have ups and downs, things that can be controlled and things that are totally out of our control, and most people cope.

The world-wide pandemic that everyone is living through is being viewed on every TV screen.  Some people are loving isolation, some are coping, and some may never recover.  For veterans, to be locked up every day and every night with wartime experiences can be overwhelming.  Pray for them.  Pray for the ones you know and the ones you never met.  There will be no chance to gather as a group this year, so group prayer will have to suffice.

Thank vets.  Pray for vets.  Hash-tag them in your prayer groups.  God will listen, so offer your best thanks and wishes to all vets and to their families.  Remember those MIA’s. Remember those in houses and apartments and living on the streets in despair.  Remember the vets in the food lines.  And remember them all year long and not just on Veterans Day or Memorial Day.  There is power in thanksgiving and in prayer.  As Gibran said, You have never lived until you have almost died…”

Happy Mothers Day…



Calumet Park Cemetery will be available to help locate graves from 10-1 on Mother’s Day.  We are covid-conscious yet understand the importance of visiting all the mom’s who are interred at Calumet Park.  Due to the virus, we will be serving families outside of the office building.  The Mausoleum buildings, including restrooms, will be open for visitation on Mother’s Day.

A Mother’s Day story

A story that I overheard when I was just a boy has stuck with me for over 60 years.  It was the year my father died.  The world was different then, and people seemed more trusting, kind, thoughtful and loving.  The story was about a man who stopped at a flower shop to order some flowers to be wired to his mother for Mother’s Day.  His mother lived quite a distance from him, but it was always his tradition to send her flowers with a nice card.  He was a busy man, and felt that sending flowers was a good way to let his mother know that he was thinking of her on her special day.

When the man went to open the door to the flower shop, he noticed a young girl and an older boy sitting on the curb, sobbing.  He asked them what was wrong and she replied, “We wanted to buy a red rose for our mom.  We only have a quarter and roses cost one dollar each and we don’t have enough money.”

The man smiled and told them to come with him into the store and he would buy the flower and she could give him her quarter.  He bought the little girl her rose and ordered a dozen red roses for his mother.  After writing his standard “I love you” on the card to be sent to his mother, he went out of the store and saw the kids turn the corner and disappear from sight.

The man caught up to the kids and offered to give the siblings a ride home.  The little girl said, “Yes, please.  You can take us to our mother.”  She and her brother got in the car and her brother directed the man to a cemetery.  Once there, she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave.  The man watched from a distance and listened to the little girl and her brother as they talked to their mom.

The man left the children, returned to the flower shop and canceled the wire order to his mother.  When asked by the flower clerk why he was canceling, he said, “Oh, I still want the flowers.  I am just canceling the wired part.  I just feel a need to give them to mom in person.”  With that, he picked up the bouquet and drove the 100 miles to his mother’s house.

The story touched me, even as a young boy.  Mothers are special, and the message I got was that the wired flowers seemed like an easy out instead of taking the time to go visit one of the most important women in any person’s life.  This year is especially hard for children of all ages to visit their mothers, whether they are going through the isolation due to the pandemic and using a smart phone, or visiting their mom’s final resting place at Calumet Park Cemetery.

As a parent of two wonderful daughters, there are no gifts that mean as much to me and to my wife as sharing time with our girls.  Gifts not needed…visits, whether via the phone, face-timing or what have you, the contact is all that is wanted.  Bless you all and Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers.  Thank you for all that you do.  You are appreciated.

From your friends at Calumet Park Cemetery, Calumet Park Funeral Chapels in Merrillville and Hobart, and Rendina Funeral Home.


The Count



On April 15, 1971 I was discharged from the Army. I was 22 years old. I went home to live with the family for a few months while I tried to figure out what to do with my life. I remember sitting with my stepfather and my mother one evening after dinner. At that time there were nine of 13 kids living at home, and after clean-up chores were done, everyone dispersed. Some headed out to play, some did homework, and others waited for the news to be over so they could watch their favorite TV shows.

Included in every night’s reporting of accidents, fires, weather, sports scores, politicians babbling and more, there was always ‘the count’. At least that is what I remember it as. The count referred to how many more American’s died in Vietnam in the most recent 24 hours. The ultimate count was 58,185 men and 8 women and so, on that evening in April, watching my parents watch ‘the count’, my soul cried.

Life is funny like that. The first time we experience anything new, we tune in. Play in your first basketball game, or sing that first solo, or stand at a door after a first date and wonder about the first kiss. We wanted to score the winning point, or hit the high note or get the thrill of lips touching lips for the first time. Almost all of life’s firsts are preceded by nervousness, anticipation and wonder.

Before I went to Vietnam, I would sit waiting with brothers and sisters for the news to end so I could watch The Monkees or The Beverly Hillbillies, and my mind never stopped to catch ‘the count’ because it went right over my head as I had heard it so many times. Each day the numbers grew and each day I was oblivious. So, when hearing the count post-Vietnam, my reality was coming from a completely different perspective. These were real people dying. Each number meant a family’s life back home would be changed forever. These were no longer just numbers. There were sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, dads and moms, husbands and wives taken in their youth.

I could see the torn limbs, the vacant eyes, the cold and lifeless flesh…and the blood. So much blood. To most of America, the nightly ‘count’ was just a number. To me, it was physical, mental and moral pain to the highest degree.

What does this have to do with the Coronavirus 49 years later? It’s ‘the count’ once again. Today, March 30, the U.S. count stands at 2,405 dead; 36,230 dead in the world! A person, your grandma perhaps, healthy as can be one day and two weeks later…gone. No more scent of her ‘Rose is a Rose” perfume worn too heavily, no more big snuggly hugs, no more pure love from this person who loved from the depths of her being. And due to the contagious nature of this killer virus, you could not be with her and she died alone. Her funeral could not be attended by all those who cared about her passing. She went from playing on the floor with your kids to a box put in the cold ground, just another number on the news to those who did not know her.

This Corona thing is serious. The numbers are horrifying, and so close to home for all of us. All of us, no matter our position in life, are susceptible to this unseen enemy that was unknown to all of us just months ago. For front line workers, the essentials among us, their reality is so different from those who are considered non-essential according to the government. Their reality is working day in and day out in the middle of the plague. They are ready and willing and dedicated to saving lives while our politicians from both sides quibble about self-serving ways to get the credit or get re-elected in November.

For all of the non-essentials, you should know that you are essential. Your job in halting and reversing the daily count is to stay home. There is little to add to this simple task. You can watch the news to learn about washing your hands and staying home. My point is the staying home part. I am healthy, and home, yet I work in an essential business. The cemetery and funeral business are filled with unsung heroes who go to work in fear each day, too. Imagine being exposed to strangers every day. As a staff member of a funeral home or cemetery, you are there caring for those who have to make final arrangements for their dead, and for their dying. You do not know if the virus is being breathed in as you want to be there for your client families.

As a 71-year-old cancer survivor, I am more likely to contract the disease than those younger, healthier people I work with, so I was asked to stay home. This tears at my very being because I feel like a person who sees something horrible happening to others and I cannot do anything for them but make sure I do not become a carrier, or victim, of the virus. I have lived a full life and know that there are others who are just beginning to live, to raise families and to enjoy the many gifts that God has provided to us all. I, in fact, volunteered to be at my desk and was asked to stay home. I do not fear death. I hate the thought of ever leaving my wife and children, and my Airedale friend, Mac…especially to this invisible disease.
Even if I am one of the lucky ones who lives to be a 100, I am still going to die. I do not wish to hasten the natural order of things, but I am not afraid. I believe in a heaven and hell and I expect to be in the good place.

Not that you may be seeking advice from this writer, but I feel obligated to share my path to peace. It is actually quite simple. You cannot find peace in your good works, though keep doing good works for those who benefit from your goodness. But there is a simple way for us all to accept the daily ‘count’ and that is to accept Jesus as your Savior. Many will agree and many more will be upset that they read this far, only to put everything in the hands of this ‘good man but not God’ person from 2020 years ago.

With so many of us confined to our homes, and with boredom or sadness from the gloom and doom broadcast daily on our big screen TV’s or tiny, hand-held devices, you have time to pick up your bible. If you do not have a bible, Google it. Listen to the stories contained there-in. Listen to Jesus talking to you as though you are there. He is real and He wants you to have peace. A simple acceptance guarantees you a place on the inside; the beautiful side of eternity.

So, go in peace. Do your part to help as an absolutely essential being by staying home. Yes, we will get though this together. Some reading this will leave this world due to the virus. And that is sad and awful and even a tiny possibility. And at the same time, everyone wants to get to heaven yet few of us want to do what is necessary to get there…we must die.

Enjoy your years on Earth and at least think about how simple it is to join those you love for eternity. Say ‘I do” to His words as written in John 14:6: “I am the way and the truth and the light. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

Finally, the phrase ‘Do not be afraid’ appears 365 times in the bible. That is a daily reminder: “Do not be afraid for I am with you. Do not anxiously look about as I am your God and I will strengthen you. Surely, I will help you. Surely I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Take a minute to look this up and send me the chapter and verse. Bless you all. Remember, this too shall pass.

Calumet Park Funeral Chapels in Merrillville and Hobart and Rendina Funeral Home in Gary and Calumet Park Cemetery Are Prepared to Safely Care For Families During the COVID-19 Pandemic



We remain committed and prepared to safely care for the families we serve during the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic. Whenever possible, we will continue to enable families to participate in the rituals that are most important to them.

And according to the CDC, at this time, there is no known risk associated with being in the same room at a funeral or visitation service with the body of someone who died of confirmed or suspected COVID-19; however, federal, state and local public health guidance may impact the size of gathering a family is able to plan. Depending on a family’s preferences, their loved one can be safely embalmed. Families may choose either burial or cremation as usual.

“At our funeral homes, we recognize our responsibility to protect the health of those we are privileged to serve,” said David Semplinski, Funeral Home Operations Supervisor. “We will continue to guide families, as we always have, in ways they can meaningfully commemorate the life of their loved one, while adhering to the guidance issued by federal, state and local public health officials.”

Semplinski continued: “Our staff remains vigilant about cleaning our facilities and ensuring we’re all following recommended healthy habits, such as staying home when sick, washing our hands, and covering coughs and sneezes. The CDC and our state and local public health officials have offered a lot of helpful guidance for businesses on this topic, which we continue to follow.”

A member of the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), our funeral home facilities, along with Calumet Park Cemetery, regularly receives information via NFDA from the CDC, Department of Health and Human Services and other agencies about the evolution of COVID-19 in the United States. NFDA continues to lead the conversation with federal officials about the role of funeral service as it relates to the COVID-19 pandemic.

If we can be of assistance, please contact us at 219-736-5840 (Merrillville), 219-940-3792 (Hobart), 219-980-1141 (Gary) and 219-769-8803 (cemetery – Daniel Moran, G.M.)

We pray for all the people of the world, and for a quick conclusion to this pandemic. We are prepared to help so do not hesitate to call with your questions.



The Board of Directors of Calumet Park

Paul Vogel II, President and CEO

What I Wish Everyone Knew About Funeral Professionals



Funeral professionals work hard to be emotionally supportive for the bereaved, use their professional training to care for the deceased and create events that will begin healing. The people they serve are likely going through some of the toughest days of their lives. The last thing a funeral professional will do is complain about how difficult their job is.

To be clear, I am not a licensed funeral professional. However, I have interacted with them for almost a decade, and I have worked at a funeral home and cemetery for the last year. When I give presentations on topics related to Finding Resilience (a burnout prevention program for funeral professionals), I often have funeral professionals come up and share their stories. In many cases, their close family members and friends may not even know about these challenges.

I thought it would be helpful to share some of the realities of the funeral profession. They would never want to draw attention to themselves, but I’d like to explain a few things I wish everyone knew about funeral professionals.

1. Funeral professionals experience unique daily challenges.

Funeral professionals know that if they have a bad day, no one wants to hear about it. Part of this is maintaining the confidentiality of the families they serve, but it goes deeper than that. While other types of professionals can complain about a computer system that went down or an incorrect delivery, funeral professionals know that no one wants to hear about embalming a nine-year-old or sitting with a widower for an hour while he cries. This comes from a respect for the deceased and the bereaved. Funeral professionals also don’t want to burden their closest friends, family members or spouses with stories like that.

The result is that funeral professionals keep these painful emotions and experiences inside. Sometimes they go to conventions and conferences to see their colleagues and share their problems. But often, they just keep it inside. It adds more stress to an already stressful profession.

2. Funeral professionals are constantly balancing responsibilities to their family and community.

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Well, at least it’s not a matter of life and death.” It can be a way of putting things in perspective and reducing our stress level. But for funeral professionals, everything they do is a matter of life and death. Typically, they are helping families with tasks and services that need to happen within the next few hours or days.

As a result, a funeral professional is continually leaving their own family to serve someone else’s family. Not only that, but they often leave in the middle of the night and direct services in the afternoons, evenings and on weekends. Their professional responsibilities may force them to miss birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, children’s sports games and many other events they wish they could attend. By taking care of others, they are away from the people they love – often at the most inconvenient times.

3. Funeral professionals face high expectations for their services.

Among small, local businesses, funeral homes sometimes seem to be unfairly singled out for seeking to make a profit. The general public often doesn’t realize how unique and challenging the funeral profession can be. For example, what other local, private business has to:

  • Be physically available every hour of the day and every day of the year.
  • Have modern, specialized vehicles (i.e., hearses, etc.).
  • Have comforting décor, an easily accessible building and a medical suite.
  • Have staff members wear formal, professional attire every day.
  • Attract, hire and retain new professionals with the promise they will need to frequently work nights, weekends and holidays – often without much notice.

Although I am not a licensed funeral professional, I know enough about their weekly schedules and lives to know this: If they went into the funeral profession for an easy way to make money, they made a terrible choice.

These are just three things I wish everyone knew about the funeral profession. You won’t hear any of these things from them (they are far too professional to do that), but I hope knowing more about their important work will help you regard funeral professionals with the same respect and gratitude that I do.


(This article was written by Dr. Jason Troyer, a psychology professor, former counselor, grief researcher, speaker and consultant who has worked with funeral & cemetery professionals for almost 10 years.)

What is included in a traditional funeral service…

Funeral homes, for the most part, are run by trusted families that live in the communities in which they serve.  They are honorable people who truly want to help families in their time of need. Their work is emotionally and physically draining.  The pay is decent but comes in irregularly.  He or she can have weeks that are so filled with details and stress when a number of calls come in all at once.  Other weeks, they can spend time looking for things to do.

Averages mean little to a funeral director.  A funeral home may average 150 funerals per year.  However, those funerals do not come in spaced in such a way to make sense of a formal schedule.  One week they may have six funerals followed by seven followed by two.  And each funeral is planned to meet the particular emotional needs and affordability of the family experiencing the loss.

The general public is not aware of all that is involved with keeping a funeral home operating the way they would like.  For years, they complained to their congressmen and women about being ripped off by funeral directors.  For instance, in the early 1980’s, a casket may have cost the funeral home $300 and they would sell it for $1000.  In order to keep their doors open and be available when needed, prices had to be set with a different mindset than other types of business.

From the perspective of the consumer, and after enough complaints were made to individual congressmen and women, families and funeral home owners were invited to meet with the Federal Trade Commission to tell their side of the story.

The conclusions of the FTC were made as a public record, and are shown below.

1984 Ruling by the FTC

It was then that the FTC was assigned authority over funeral homes in regard to pricing standards.  To make it possible for families to compare pricing, the FTC introduced the Funeral Rule.  You can look on-line for the entire rule.  As part of the rule, the FTC established that a traditional funeral service would be composed of seven items.  They dictated that these seven items be printed on a General Price List, along with other offerings available to families when seeking pricing for funerals.

The GPL, as it is referred to, must be given to anyone asking for one, whether friend or foe (competitor) of the funeral home.  Pricing was also to be given to anyone calling in to inquire about prices.  The traditional funeral was to be made up of the following:  basic services of funeral director staff, embalming, other preparation of the body, transportation (transfer of body to funeral home), use of facility and staff for visitation/viewing, use of facility and staff for funeral ceremony/memorial service, and hearse.

The FTC did not care what a funeral home charged for services and merchandise.  They only sought transparency.  The idea was for a grieving family to be able to go to any funeral home in the country and, with a GPL in hand, the family could compare the bottom line for a funeral among all funeral homes that they might consider using.  Regarding caskets and outer containers as required by most cemeteries, a casket price list and an outer container price list must be made available (CPL and OBCL) for comparison purposes.

Although price alone should not be the deciding factor on choosing a funeral home, it is a good place to start.  More importantly, the GPL can be useful in getting a feel for prices in your city or town.  Reputation and visiting funeral homes is the best way to find out what is best for you.  There is a feeling when you visit a funeral home, an ambiance if you will, that feels “right” as you make your visit.  Staffing is very important to help a family gain trust that their loved one will be in good hands, and that can best be judged by having personal contact.  After all, you will be turning your loved one over to strangers.  Although money is important, professionalism and caring directors and staff supersedes all.

The best time to check out funeral homes is now, before you have a need.  Visit when your mind is clear and your heart is not broken by the loss of someone dear to you.  We invite you to come to any of our three funeral homes (Merrillville, Hobart or Gary).  Our funeral directors and staff would be happy to show you around, answer your questions and help you find what feels best to you and to your wallet.  Call 219-769-8803 or stop in.

Calumet Park Funeral Chapel in Merrillville 219-736-5840
Rendina is owned by Calumet Park (Gary locations) 219-980-1141
Hobart location 219-940-3791


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Complete remodel of interior of administration office at Calumet Park Cemetery in Merrillville underway…

The Calumet Park Cemetery office building (11,000 square foot building immediately to your left when you enter the cemetery at the main entrance at the corner of 73rd and Taft in Merrillville) is undergoing a complete make-over for the new decade.  The picture shown above is the visitor entrance to the office building being readied for the changes.  New flooring, walls, including a real eye-catcher surprise that will offer a peaceful waiting area, new color scheme and more will greet visitors to the office.

We ask for your patience during this remodeling project which should be completed within the next 4-6 weeks.  If you have any questions, please call 219-769-8803.  Thank you for your patience.  We are fully open to serve you during this process.



click on pic for more info: Warm weather is coming…it just might take a few months…do not give up hope!

Mark your calendars for the 2020 Calumet Park and Rendina event schedule:

June 14 is fishing for memories free fishing event for kids of all ages at Calumet Park Cemetery

May 23 free fireworks at Calumet Park Cemetery

May 23-25 is Memorial Weekend. Call us for complete schedule. At the cemetery.

July 18 free live butterfly release at Calumet Park Cemetery.

September 26 is the third annual 5K walk/run. Start getting in shape now.

October 10 is Merrillville Funeral Chapel’s annual Trunk or Treat fall festival.

October 17 is Hobart Funeral Chapels Trunk or Treat fall festival.

November 11 is our annual veteran’s day memorial service at the cemetery.

December 3 is Rendina’s Angel Tree lighting ceremony.

December 4 is Hobart’s Angel Tree lighting ceremony.

December 5 is Merrillville Funeral Chapel’s Angel Tree lighting ceremony.

Watch for more info on this site, or in our e-news letter or call for info, times and directions.

Happy New Year to all. 219-769-8803





Click here ‘Tis the season….

A moment of joy and hope…for 33 years. Eternity in heaven given to all who accept and believe. Merry Christmas to all. (crosses on hill behind the mausoleum complex at Calumet Park Cemetery) Happy New Year to all. Thank you for letting us serve your family.

Special Seasonal Sale on Graves through December 30th, 2019

All graves now on sale through December 30, 2019 when purchased on a pre-need basis; all sections.

20% discount on all graves

25% discount on graves when combined with a pre-need funeral service

30% discount on all graves if paid-in-full at the time of purchase


Pick-up will be December 5-7 at Calumet Park Cemetery, Rendina Funeral Home, Calumet Park Funeral Chapels in Merrillville and in Hobart. Call 219-769-8803 for details. Thanks.

Angel Tree Lighting Ceremonies at Calumet Park Funeral Chapels and Rendina Funeral Home…

Michelle Hanrahan, Funeral Director, reading off the names as families hang their angel on the tree.

It is that time of year once again. Mark your calendars and make a quick call to the funeral home of your choice as shown below to be sure to order your free glass angel to hang on the Angel Tree.


Calumet Park Funeral Chapel in Merrillville on December 7 from 3-5. Call 219-736-5840 to reserve your angel. Located at 7535 Taft Street, Merrillville.

Calumet Park Funeral Chapel in Hobart on December 6 from 6-8. Call 219-940-3791 to reserve your angel. Located just north of the County Line Apple Orchard in Hobart, 370 N. County Line Road, Hobart.

Rendina Funeral Home on December 5 from 6-8. Call 219-980-1141 to reserve your angel. Located at 5100 Cleveland Street, Gary.

This event is filled with emotion and all that attend cannot say enough about how wonderful it is to have such a special tree lighting ceremony for their lost loved ones. There will be live music, a welcome address by Paul Vogel, CEO of Calumet Park, the reading of names followed by the hanging of the angels on the tree. After the tree is lit for the Christmas season, families and friends may gather for refreshments and good fellowship. Hope to see you there.

To ensure that you have an angel with your loved ones name, and dates of birth and death, call now. See you there.

Veterans Day Memorial Service held at Calumet Park Mausoleum at 11:00 am on the 11th day of the 11th month…

Rob Poortenga with the riderless horse honoring fallen soldiers


Paul Vogel II opening the veteran memorial service with a prayer
Brant Vogel sang two sentimental songs relative to the event
Pat O’Donnell served as keynote speaker


Honor Guard from DOD
Gun salute
Daniel Moran’s closing remarks

What does it mean to be a veteran?

(written by Daniel Moran and an unknown author from internet)

A veteran is someone who has experience in the military, and quite often, in war. But that does not tell the whole story. Sometimes being a veteran has a greater meaning than someone who once wore a uniform.

The politics behind America’s military may be debatable at times, but the common thread of a veteran is the sheer guts it takes to hand a blank check over to the government for the amount up to and including their very life.

Many veterans will make light of their willingness to put themselves in harms way, and will joke that combat is the most exciting thing you can do. Others will rightly testify that it’s the most terrifying and horrifying thing a person can do.

And while there is no possible way to explain what combat is like to someone who has never experienced it, and never had their life directly threatened by another human being, those of us who have been there can tell you that both the best and the worst of humanity is seen in war.

Watching the top of your friend’s head get removed by a piece of shrapnel from an exploding 88 round during the Battle of the Bulge…holding your buddy in your arms while he slowly bleeds to death in the jungles outside of Ke Sahn, Vietnam after being shot by the Cong…or climbing up into your Humvee’s turret to man the 50 Cal because your squad mate fell back inside after an RPG exploded in his face…only to reach up and grab the gun’s grips, and instead, grab your squad mate’s still attached hand…

Or, it is your head, your blood flowing into the grass, or your hand blown off! Or, possibly worse, your injuries are of the mental kind… of seeing and doing things that no human should ever be witness to, or called upon to do!

These are the stakes that joining the military are all about. Yet, there are people willing to go do it, and if asked, they would go do it again in an instant. They experienced the most challenging of situations and through it all, cared for the homeland and the freedom we all enjoy more than life itself.

They laid it all out for one another…living, loving, crying and dying together. It is a weird dichotomy…war. How can it be that such things still go on in these supposedly enlightened times?

Millions of fellow American men and women that you never knew agreed to risk going through this hell for you. Many of them came back home in a flag-covered box, and some never came back at all. So, what kind of person can love you so much that they would die for you without ever having met you?

Who can love their flag so much that they would die for it, and for the principles she stands for? Who would take those risks and not expect any thanks in return, knowing that the thanks are, ironically, in having been one of the few to sign on the line and raise their right hand to God as they pledged to defend this country?

A veteran…that’s who!

If the idea of that does not stir your soul, what will? So, if you see a veteran, shake their hand, or maybe even give them a hug. If you cannot think of anything to say, that’s OK too. They’ll understand the message: Veterans in this room, I salute you.

And to all veterans who read this, and to their families, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your sacrifice as you proudly served your country.

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What is there to be thankful for?

Some things to be thankful for …

It seems that turkey, sweet potatoes, cranberry sauce, pumpkin and apple pies and more were just served as America celebrated Thanksgiving, 2018.  Before you know it, the feast for 2019 will be shared by families across the country.  For many, things to be thankful for will easily roll off the tongue.  For too many others, they will hesitate when asked what they are thankful for.

Working for years in the death care industry, I have found families that have lost someone dear to them quite often find it difficult to feel thankful about very much, especially during the holidays.  Broken hearts seem to filter out much that is good in one’s life.  Focus is on that which is not going right and what is more wrong than a death of a loved one?

I am not going to play psychiatrist here, but I would like to offer a few interesting thoughts.  If you are reading this, then you have your eyesight, so put that in the plus column for things to be thankful for.  If you do not have your sight but are listening to someone read this to you, then add another positive to this column as you have your hearing.

If you walk into the dining room on November 28, regardless of where you plan on having Thanksgiving dinner, you can be thankful that you can walk, that you can smell the delicious food, and that you can enjoy the tastes of turkey and pie.  When you greet those who you will be sharing dinner with you, be aware of your sense of touch, and how nice it is to get and to give a hug or a kiss.  Love is amazing, and it is always something to be thankful for.

Yes, you may not have the physical presence of your lost loved one, but you will always have the memories of all those special times that were shared.  So, add memories to your list of things to be grateful for, along with the ability to think, and speak and share.   And then there are the obvious things in most of our lives that are blessings that are not always acknowledged:  having a job (income), having a roof over our heads, running water, transportation, food on a daily basis, and good, clean water to drink.

In this country, we are blessed with material things beyond the imagination of so many people from third world countries.  It seems that even our homeless have cell phones, as do each of us and our kids and everyone we know.  A trip to the grocery store becomes a challenge to our decision-making process as there are so many versions of food and cleaning supplies and on and on to choose from.

In fact, many years ago I worked in NYC and we had some Russian immigrants working with us.  I asked one of the ladies what she was most impressed with in the USA.  I thought she would say the tall buildings in the city or the statue of Liberty but no, she was most impressed with our grocery stores.  As mentioned above, she was stunned by the number of choices.  In Russia, she stood in lines to buy a loaf of bread.  So, add grocery stores to your list of things to be thankful for.

Sadly, many people that are hurting from a death of a close loved one forgets to be open to the love of those suffering with her or him, whether friends or family members.  When a child dies, sometimes grief squeezes out our other children who are also suffering from the loss.  There is so much love and living to be shared with our circle of love and influence, even when someone important to us dies.  It is important to grieve, and we all do so in different ways.  But it is something to remember, in the middle of those lonely nights, that we still have so much to be thankful for.

When you sit with family and friends this Thanksgiving, think on some of the blessing that you do have.  One of the most important blessings is good health, so if you are feeling good, and have eyes to see and ears to hear, the sense of taste and touch and you enjoy even some of the things mentioned above, feel comfortable expressing your appreciation…when it is your turn to tell everyone at the table what you are thankful for.  I even feel thankful, at this very moment, that you have taken the time to read these words.  Please know that they are written just for you.

I will conclude with a personal note from me.  If you have not discovered the source of all that there is to be thankful for, I suggest you pick up a bible and you will find so many things to be thankful for.  My biggest thanks go to God and you can see why when you spend some time in the new testament.  For now, Happy Thanksgiving to all and may I wish your holiday season is filled with love, joy and peace and good health.


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