The Calumet Park Cemetery office building (11,000 square foot building immediately to your left when you enter the cemetery at the main entrance at the corner of 73rd and Taft in Merrillville) is undergoing a complete make-over for the new decade. The picture shown above is the visitor entrance to the office building being readied for the changes. New flooring, walls, including a real eye-catcher surprise that will offer a peaceful waiting area, new color scheme and more will greet visitors to the office.
We ask for your patience during this remodeling project which should be completed within the next 4-6 weeks. If you have any questions, please call 219-769-8803. Thank you for your patience. We are fully open to serve you during this process.
A moment of joy and hope…for 33 years. Eternity in heaven given to all who accept and believe. Merry Christmas to all. (crosses on hill behind the mausoleum complex at Calumet Park Cemetery) Happy New Year to all. Thank you for letting us serve your family.
It is that time of year once again. Mark your calendars and make a quick call to the funeral home of your choice as shown below to be sure to order your free glass angel to hang on the Angel Tree.
Calumet Park Funeral Chapel in Merrillville on December 7 from 3-5. Call 219-736-5840 to reserve your angel. Located at 7535 Taft Street, Merrillville.
Calumet Park Funeral Chapel in Hobart on December 6 from 6-8. Call 219-940-3791 to reserve your angel. Located just north of the County Line Apple Orchard in Hobart, 370 N. County Line Road, Hobart.
Rendina Funeral Home on December 5 from 6-8. Call 219-980-1141 to reserve your angel. Located at 5100 Cleveland Street, Gary.
This event is filled with emotion and all that attend cannot say enough about how wonderful it is to have such a special tree lighting ceremony for their lost loved ones. There will be live music, a welcome address by Paul Vogel, CEO of Calumet Park, the reading of names followed by the hanging of the angels on the tree. After the tree is lit for the Christmas season, families and friends may gather for refreshments and good fellowship. Hope to see you there.
To ensure that you have an angel with your loved ones name, and dates of birth and death, call now. See you there.
(written by Daniel Moran and an unknown author from internet)
A veteran is someone who has experience in the military, and quite often, in war. But that does not tell the whole story. Sometimes being a veteran has a greater meaning than someone who once wore a uniform.
The politics behind America’s military may be debatable at times, but the common thread of a veteran is the sheer guts it takes to hand a blank check over to the government for the amount up to and including their very life.
Many veterans will make light of their willingness to put themselves in harms way, and will joke that combat is the most exciting thing you can do. Others will rightly testify that it’s the most terrifying and horrifying thing a person can do.
And while there is no possible way to explain what combat is like to someone who has never experienced it, and never had their life directly threatened by another human being, those of us who have been there can tell you that both the best and the worst of humanity is seen in war.
Watching the top of your friend’s head get removed by a piece of shrapnel from an exploding 88 round during the Battle of the Bulge…holding your buddy in your arms while he slowly bleeds to death in the jungles outside of Ke Sahn, Vietnam after being shot by the Cong…or climbing up into your Humvee’s turret to man the 50 Cal because your squad mate fell back inside after an RPG exploded in his face…only to reach up and grab the gun’s grips, and instead, grab your squad mate’s still attached hand…
Or, it is your head, your blood flowing into the grass, or your hand blown off! Or, possibly worse, your injuries are of the mental kind… of seeing and doing things that no human should ever be witness to, or called upon to do!
These are the stakes that joining the military are all about. Yet, there are people willing to go do it, and if asked, they would go do it again in an instant. They experienced the most challenging of situations and through it all, cared for the homeland and the freedom we all enjoy more than life itself.
They laid it all out for one another…living, loving, crying and dying together. It is a weird dichotomy…war. How can it be that such things still go on in these supposedly enlightened times?
Millions of fellow American men and women that you never knew agreed to risk going through this hell for you. Many of them came back home in a flag-covered box, and some never came back at all. So, what kind of person can love you so much that they would die for you without ever having met you?
Who can love their flag so much that they would die for it, and for the principles she stands for? Who would take those risks and not expect any thanks in return, knowing that the thanks are, ironically, in having been one of the few to sign on the line and raise their right hand to God as they pledged to defend this country?
A veteran…that’s who!
If the idea of that does not stir your soul, what will? So, if you see a veteran, shake their hand, or maybe even give them a hug. If you cannot think of anything to say, that’s OK too. They’ll understand the message: Veterans in this room, I salute you.
And to all veterans who read this, and to their families, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your sacrifice as you proudly served your country.
For information regarding cemetery and funeral arrangements, call 219-769-8803.
It seems that turkey, sweet potatoes, cranberry sauce, pumpkin and apple pies and more were just served as America celebrated Thanksgiving, 2018. Before you know it, the feast for 2019 will be shared by families across the country. For many, things to be thankful for will easily roll off the tongue. For too many others, they will hesitate when asked what they are thankful for.
Working for years in the death care industry, I have found families that have lost someone dear to them quite often find it difficult to feel thankful about very much, especially during the holidays. Broken hearts seem to filter out much that is good in one’s life. Focus is on that which is not going right and what is more wrong than a death of a loved one?
I am not going to play psychiatrist here, but I would like to offer a few interesting thoughts. If you are reading this, then you have your eyesight, so put that in the plus column for things to be thankful for. If you do not have your sight but are listening to someone read this to you, then add another positive to this column as you have your hearing.
If you walk into the dining room on November 28, regardless of where you plan on having Thanksgiving dinner, you can be thankful that you can walk, that you can smell the delicious food, and that you can enjoy the tastes of turkey and pie. When you greet those who you will be sharing dinner with you, be aware of your sense of touch, and how nice it is to get and to give a hug or a kiss. Love is amazing, and it is always something to be thankful for.
Yes, you may not have the physical presence of your lost loved one, but you will always have the memories of all those special times that were shared. So, add memories to your list of things to be grateful for, along with the ability to think, and speak and share. And then there are the obvious things in most of our lives that are blessings that are not always acknowledged: having a job (income), having a roof over our heads, running water, transportation, food on a daily basis, and good, clean water to drink.
In this country, we are blessed with material things beyond the imagination of so many people from third world countries. It seems that even our homeless have cell phones, as do each of us and our kids and everyone we know. A trip to the grocery store becomes a challenge to our decision-making process as there are so many versions of food and cleaning supplies and on and on to choose from.
In fact, many years ago I worked in NYC and we had some Russian immigrants working with us. I asked one of the ladies what she was most impressed with in the USA. I thought she would say the tall buildings in the city or the statue of Liberty but no, she was most impressed with our grocery stores. As mentioned above, she was stunned by the number of choices. In Russia, she stood in lines to buy a loaf of bread. So, add grocery stores to your list of things to be thankful for.
Sadly, many people that are hurting from a death of a close loved one forgets to be open to the love of those suffering with her or him, whether friends or family members. When a child dies, sometimes grief squeezes out our other children who are also suffering from the loss. There is so much love and living to be shared with our circle of love and influence, even when someone important to us dies. It is important to grieve, and we all do so in different ways. But it is something to remember, in the middle of those lonely nights, that we still have so much to be thankful for.
When you sit with family and friends this Thanksgiving, think on some of the blessing that you do have. One of the most important blessings is good health, so if you are feeling good, and have eyes to see and ears to hear, the sense of taste and touch and you enjoy even some of the things mentioned above, feel comfortable expressing your appreciation…when it is your turn to tell everyone at the table what you are thankful for. I even feel thankful, at this very moment, that you have taken the time to read these words. Please know that they are written just for you.
I will conclude with a personal note from me. If you have not discovered the source of all that there is to be thankful for, I suggest you pick up a bible and you will find so many things to be thankful for. My biggest thanks go to God and you can see why when you spend some time in the new testament. For now, Happy Thanksgiving to all and may I wish your holiday season is filled with love, joy and peace and good health.
Calumet Park Funeral Chapel on Taft in Merrillville celebrated Fall with a fun-packed Trunk or Treat Celebration on Saturday, October 4. If you missed it, join us next Saturday at our Hobart Funeral Chapel just north of the Apple Orchard on County Line Road. Last years Hobart had tons of fun and lots of kids in costumes and would love to see you there.
A big thank you goes out to all the organizers and participants at the Merrillville festival.
Hunter Vogel 2nd overall and 1st in age group (17 years old) at 23:10.4 and brother ,Ian Vogel finished 4th overall and first in his age group (13 years old) at 25:49.8
Most senior participant – Daniel Moran at 57:27.6 (let’s hear it for the 70+ crowd!)
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Thanks to all who helped organize this event and a special nod of appreciation to Sandy Ferris, Kevin Music and Marcia Ochoa for running the check-in tables and to Tim McClure and his crew in traffic and parking duty.
Hope to see you and your friends next year. Also, don’t miss the Trunk or Treat tailgate fun at the Merrillville Chapel (on Taft in Merrillville) on October 5 and at the Hobart Funeral Chapel (on County Line Road near the Apple Orchard) on October 12. Both begin at 11:00 a.m.
You are invited to participate in Calumet Park Cemetery’s 2nd Annual Light the Darkness 5K run/walk. Go to www.runsignup.com to register (click on Find a Race, then click on Light the Darkness, and then click To sign up). The event will be held on September 28 at the cemetery located at 73rd and Taft in Merrillville. Plan on arriving at 7:00 to check in and get your number and T-shirt and be ready to run at the 8:00 a.m. starting gun.
Last year’s event had official 116 entrants with medals for 1, 2 and 3 places awarded for a number of age divisions along with trophies for the overall winner for men and for women.
The map shown is the path that the race will take for your use in the event that you would like to do some conditioning runs prior to race time. The funds that will be raised will go to either Operation Combat Bikesaver, Inc or Path, Inc. You may do some research on-line to see the important work that both of these groups do for suicide awareness and prevention. If you have any questions, feel free to call 219-769-8803 and ask for Daniel Moran.
Cemeteries and funeral homes are much more complicated than might be expected by the general population. For now, I would like to let you in on what it takes to make a cemetery worthy of being named the number one cemetery in the country for 2018.
Calumet Park owns over 400 acres of land. As of this year (founded in 1928 with first burial in 1929) approximately 175 acres of land have been developed for burials. In these 91 years, we have completed the final arrangements and burials of 50,746 individuals, or an average of 573 burials per year.
Calumet Park requires a triple check system for locating the proper grave to be prepared. Once the location is confirmed as being 100% correct, a team digs the grave, usually with an oversized backhoe. The dirt is taken away from the area as many people do not like to think of so much dirt piled on their loved one. An outer container is placed in the freshly dug grave, usually a vault of varying degrees of protection against the entry of water and insects and other gravesite elements from penetrating into the casket. It is designed to hold up the earth from caving in, and is required for every ground burial at Calumet Park. Graves are approximately six feet deep.
The lid is placed to the side until after the committal service is complete. There is a set-up involved that ensures against the collapse of the grave before dirt is brought back to cover the grave. Next, a lowering device is set over the open grave from which the casket will be lowered into the vault at the appropriate time at the conclusion of the committal service. A committal service simply means the gathering of friends and relatives to witness the commitment of their loved one to their final resting place.
The next step is to place “greens”, or artificial grass, around the grave to improve the appearance of the grave for the committal service. Finally, a tent is set up that helps to shield the immediate family from the elements…rain and intense heat in the summer. Once the committal service is complete and the funeral director thanks all for coming, those in attendance are dismissed. The grounds crew then comes back to the site to complete the burial and place the flowers on the mounded earth left to settle. The set-up procedure is reversed and the burial is complete. Over the following couple of weeks, weather permitting, additional dirt is brought in to level the grave with a final layer of topsoil, grass seed and a special covering to speed up the growth of grass seed, placed on the fresh grave.
There is a tremendous amount of cemetery maintenance that is tended to every day. There are well over 100,000 markers, upright monuments, shrubs, trees and seemingly unending acres of grass to be mowed. Think of what is involved in making your own lawn look nice and usually a yard is not filled with things rising up from the land that need to be trimmed around. There are over 5 miles of two -way roads that have to be maintained, including snow removal and pot hole repair or repaving of blacktop throughout the cemetery as needed
Trucks and backhoes and earth movers of different sizes are used daily along with hand tools and snow removal equipment. As in life outside of the cemetery, machines break down and need to be repaired or replaced at some pretty hefty price-tags. There are many different skill levels needed to keep it all going. Tim McClure, superintendent and Jeremy Grant (assistant super) work with a crew of permanent workers and in the spring, summer and fall, the work force doubles to help keep pace with the never-ending job of grass cutting and trimming.
Add to all of the daily tasks, the grounds crew is responsible for setting flush markers and foundations for upright monuments, along with the setting of those monuments. This is backbreaking work and must be handled with care and precision.
At Calumet Park, the grounds crew helps to take care of ground maintenance at our three funeral homes as well as building maintenance on three funeral homes, two crematories and a massive office/administration building. Clean-up after storms, including downed trees and branches, along with continuous sweeps of the cemetery to empty waste cans is part of the daily routine.
Many times, the people in green shirts deal with complaining family members when a marker is not at the level that they want it to be at. An expensive and time-consuming part of running the cemetery is keeping up with this concern. Calumet Park Cemetery offers free leveling of markers by simply stopping at the office to write up a work order. It is financially impossible to raise and level every marker even once per year, and even if you did spend the millions it would take to do so, the initial markers would have sunk again or have grass go over them.
Throughout the year, Calumet Park has many community-oriented events, from Memorial Weekend to Butterfly Release program to 5k runs to Veterans Day activity to Fishing for Memories programs to fireworks. Who else but the grounds crew is there to set up what needs setting up, to control traffic, to ensure proper reverence is paid to those interred here and to make safe all who attend.
So, the purpose of this story is that these men and women work extremely hard and extremely conscientiously for the benefit of every family that chooses Calumet Park as their final resting place. As I write these words, the heat index in the region is 110 degrees. The team sweats it off, drinks a lot of water, and work on as your servant. In winter, with windchills last year as low as 40 degrees below zero, burials still needed to be made, snow still needed to be removed, trash still needed to be cleared and so on and so on.
The old saying of walk in another man’s shoes before you criticize their work hold true in the case of the grounds crew. I totally appreciate the hard labor and success this team of worthy people exercise on a daily basis (5.5 days per week). So, when you see one of the workers out in any and all kinds of weather, it is ok for you to thank them and what the heck, offer them a bottle of cold water if you have one to spare. They are working for each and every person and their families that elect to use Calumet Park and all affiliates.
Lastly, without you as trusted and loyal families, there would be no need for any of us inside the gates of Calumet Park to even show up for work. So, we thank you for your patronage.
For information on pre-planning your cemetery or funeral arrangements, call 219-769-8803 and check us out on our website at https://mycalumetpark.com
Calumet Park Cemetery hosted its 11th annual live butterfly release ceremony on Saturday, July 20. In spite of extremely high temperatures, 850 butterflies were released after Rob Vogel read the Legend of the Butterfly. Participants in the production were band members John Ochoa on piano and vocals, Ronnie Murphy on guitar and Gary Shellton on drums and vocals. They were joined for one song written and sung by Daniel Moran, GM. Paul Vogel, CEO had a beautiful message and prayer, Kim Jones, Funeral Home Liaison, shared a very emotional reading.
Following a some random pics of the event (click on any pic to enlarge):
The letter shown below was written to Jerry Davich regarding this coming week’s live butterfly release ceremony. This is the 11th annual event and this year close to 900 people have signed up to attend. I feel there might be something in this email for any readers of this blog so I am sharing it with you all.
Just shy of 900 signed up for butterfly release for Saturday. We will see how many show with temp expected to be above 90 next week.
Anyway, the song I wrote is attached. In all my years in this business, God and lack of understanding why someone we love dies seems to be two of the most shared thoughts that I hear. Either there is an eternal love and trust in God that He knows what He is doing or a turning away from God, or at lease an anger with Him, when a loved one dies.
My first encounter with death was at 9 years old. We lived in the country in up-state NY. My cousin’s dog got distemper and his father told us to go dig a grave in the woods and then take the dog out and shoot it. I guess he thought that would make us men. We dug the grave and my cousin pointed the .22 rifle at his dog but could not shoot. He stood there crying, rifle inches from his pet’s skull, and trembled. I grabbed the rifle, pointed and shot the dog. We cried, filled in the grave, and never went to that part of the woods again.
A couple years later, when I was 11, my dad died from a perforated ulcer. Stupid reason to die but we had no money for him to go to the doctor. He already had seven kids, and on the day of his death, the family doctor (without knowing that dad had died) called my mother to tell her she was pregnant with her eighth kid…congratulations, he is reputed to have said to her. Irish Catholics, don’t you know! No money, no insurance, no dad, no running water, no bathroom but a falling apart outhouse…why be mad at God?
In high school a couple of classmates died in accidents and a friend of a friend died from suicide. Then, on to the Army and Vietnam. It was kill or be killed there as one fought sworn enemies with guns, and weather that nearly suffocated one from the high temps and intense humidity. I stopped making friends there during my year and a half in country as a way to avoid the pain of loss when a friend would die in action…as a number of them did die. Add in an uncle that was killed by a train, a mother and sister that died from cancers (both big smokers), my wife and I losing our first child in a miscarriage, the loss of her parents, a step-father passing from brain cancer all the way up to co-workers and bosses dying and you can see that I have a lot of shared grief and personal losses in my 70 years.
Anyway, ten years ago I met a woman who lost two daughters within months of each other (one by drugs and the second by car accident while texting). She came to work here for awhile as a family service counselor. I felt obligated to fire her after a year; not because she wasn’t doing a good job because she was doing a good job. But what I observed was that being around death and dying everyday as a counselor at a cemetery seemed to prevent her from learning how to live without her 20 and 22 year old girls.
I wrote the song as a culmination of many talks with her during that year. She had so much trouble understanding why her girls were taken so young. I also witnessed her intense belief in God. She was absolute in her belief that she would see them again in heaven, and trusted God’s decision to end their lives on this plane when he did.
So, in a way, this song was penned by me but written by these many experiences of death. When you go to work every day and feel the pain of so many deaths, it is imperative to have a strong belief in something bigger than life. I absolutely believe in God, and Jesus, and the whole eternity thing. When I went though my own cancer a year and a half ago and a kidney was cut out and tossed, I surprised my family with having no fear of what might happen. I even went so far as to talk to God and I told Him that if this is what had to be, then I trusted Him. I remember telling Him that I would prefer no pain but if that was part of the plan, then I offered it up to Him. Guess what? A happy ultimate ending as the cancer is gone, but funny old God, there was pain x 100.
I am sharing this story because I am not the best singer but sometimes it is important to know why a song is written and some of the meaning behind the words. Dylan was not a good singer by most accounts, but he was a wordsmith like few others before or after him. I do not claim to be the next Dylan, but my song and my interpretation of my song comes from my soul.
Hope to see you Saturday. Even if we do not get together, I respect you and know that you have family here. So, this song is as much yours as it is for all the people that brave the heat to let a butterfly go free to carry their secret longings up to heaven.
The 11th Annual Butterfly Release Ceremony is coming up soon. It will be held on July 20 at 11:00 a.m. at Calumet Park Cemetery on the corner of 73rd and Taft in Merrillville (1 mile north of Route 30 on Taft). This is an hour long event that celebrates the memory of those folks that have preceded us in death. There will be live music, readings, and live butterflies for each person in attendance. To be sure you get a butterfly, call before July 10 to reserve yours. The butterflies are compliments of Calumet Park so please call now to 219-769-8803 to help us get an accurate count of the number of butterflies that must be ordered. There were 600 butterflies released last year and we would love it to be a thousand or more this year. Remember to bring a lawn chair or blanket for your comfort as this is an outdoor event and must be held, rain or shine, as the butterflies must be released. Thanks and hope to see you there.